The 20-Minute Money Talk That Ends Three Years of Fights

You make good money. You can't tell your wife the full picture in twenty minutes. That's not a math problem. That's an outsourcing problem. You handed the budget to "my guy." You handed the 401(k) to whoever your company defaulted you into a decade ago. You handed the credit card statement to the autopay calendar. And then you wondered why your wife asks about money the way other men's wives ask about an affair. She's not asking about money. She's asking if you know where you are. The 20-minute agenda Sit down on a Sunday afternoon. One page in front of you. Phones in the other room. The four sections: One — what came in. Last month, in one number. Not gross. Take-home, after tax. If you can't put it on the page in one number, you don't know what came in. Two — what went out. Five categories. Not fifty. Housing. Transportation. Food. Insurance and bills. Everything else. Five rows. Five numbers. Total at the bottom. Three — what's left, where it lives. Checking. Savings. Investments. Debt. Four rows. Four numbers. Net at the bottom. Four — what we're doing in the next ninety days. One number you're saving. One debt you're killing. One thing you're not buying. One thing you are. That's the meeting. Twenty minutes. Four sections. One page. What you find when you actually do it Most men find one of three things the first time they run this meeting. One — they're making more than they thought and saving less than they thought. The lifestyle quietly absorbed the raise. Two — they're paying for three subscriptions that lapsed in usefulness two years ago. Streaming. A gym they haven't been to. Software for a side project that died. Three — they're one job loss away from a panic they have never spoken out loud. Three to six months of expenses in cash. No new consumer debt. Fifteen percent of income invested, automatically, every month. Most men reading this have none of those three. Your wife knows. Why she will not fight you on this Because she is not afraid of the numbers. She is afraid of not being told the numbers. The fight you keep having is not about Amazon. It's about being kept in the dark while the man who built the dark says, don't worry about it. The 20-minute meeting ends the fight because for the first time in years, nobody is in the dark. Run it four times a year, forever Once a quarter. Same agenda. Same one page. After a while, the meeting takes twelve minutes and ends with the two of you agreeing on one thing. That is what a marriage with money looks like. --- Get the workbook that prints the page for you The Vocation & Finances Workbook is the 14-day plan that takes "I just keep earning" and turns it into we know exactly what we're building and why. Vocation vs. job. The written monthly budget on one page. The 3–6 month floor. The Quarterly Money Meeting agenda, scripts, and the four questions. Generosity as a tool, not a tip. 44 pages. $19. One-time. Get The Vocation & Finances Workbook →