Faith
5 Questions. If You Flinch at Three of Them, You Have Work to Do.
Chris Heidlebaugh · May 30, 2026 · 4 min read
Read these slowly. One at a time. Out loud if you have to. Don't move to the next one until you've told yourself the truth on the one in front of you.
If you flinch at three, you've got work to do. If you flinch at all five, you are exactly the man this site was built for. That is not an insult. That is the beginning of an honest year.
1. When did you last open the Book — by yourself, for ten minutes, on purpose?
Not a verse on a screen. Not a podcast in the truck. Not a worship song with the windows down. The Book. In your hands. Ten minutes. Alone.
If the honest answer is I don't remember, your soul has been on a subscription you stopped paying years ago. The good news is it's the cheapest pillar to rebuild. It starts tonight.
2. When did you last pursue your wife on purpose — not respond to her, pursue her?
Not "we had a date." Not "we slept together." Pursued. Booked the sitter. Picked the place. Took the phone out of your pocket on purpose. Asked her one real question and waited for the answer.
Most men over 35 cannot remember the last time they did this. Their wives can.
3. Can you name your child's best friend, hardest subject, and current fear — right now, without asking?
Don't read on until you've tried. By name. By subject. By the thing they are most quietly afraid of this season.
If you can't do it for one of your kids, you've outsourced fatherhood to your wife. If you can't do it for all of them, your kids are being raised by their mother and a phone.
4. Do you know your resting heart rate the way you know your revenue?
You can pull last quarter's number out of your head in two seconds. Can you do the same with your resting heart rate? Your last bloodwork date? Your fasting glucose? When you last lifted something heavy?
Your business is over-managed. Your body is unmanaged. One of them is the asset you will still have when the other is sold.
5. Can you sit your wife down on a Sunday and walk the full money picture in twenty minutes?
Not the income. The full picture. What came in. What went out. What's left. Where it lives. What's coming in the next ninety days.
If the answer is not really, my guy handles most of it, you have outsourced the one set of numbers a husband is supposed to know cold.
What to do now
Don't post about this. Don't text it to a buddy. Sit with the flinches. Tonight, pick one — one — and do the smallest possible move against it. Open the Book for ten minutes. Put your phone in the other room when you walk in the door. Lace the shoes and walk for thirty.
Then tomorrow, do the next smallest one.
That's the whole game. The men who run this site have been running that game on themselves for years. It works.
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