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Inside The Self Workbook
Real pages from the workbook — the opening, part of the audit, a complete Day 1 with its anchor move and written exercises, and one of the reference tools. Nothing here is a mockup.
Contents
All 24 sections
- Start hereThe Bill Comes Due
- AuditThe Audit
- Day 1Establish the floor
- Day 2The 8 p.m. shutdown
- Day 3Train today, badly if necessary
- Day 4Know your numbers
- Day 5Sleep is a decision you make at nine
- Day 6Eat like a man with a job
- Day 7Walk without headphones
- ReviewWeek One Review
- Day 8The mind audit
- Day 9Cut the one and make it hard to undo
- Day 10Honest audit of the bottle
- Day 11Carry something heavy
- Day 12One friend, in person
- Day 13Build the week that repeats
- Day 14The first employee you manage
- ReviewWeek Two Review
- Re-auditThe Re-Audit
- 30 daysThe 30-Day Plan
- ToolTrain 4, Sleep 7, Walk 8 — The Card
- ToolThe 8 p.m. Shutdown Card
- ToolKnow Your Numbers — The Bloodwork Sheet
- ToolThe Mind Audit Sheet
Start here
The Bill Comes Due
Your body is the invoice for the last ten years. The weight, the sleep, the blood pressure, the two drinks that became four, the scroll that eats the last ninety minutes of every night — none of it arrived suddenly. You financed it, month by month, and now it is being collected.
This is the leg most men insist is the least important, right up until it takes the other three. A man with no energy cannot lead a table, cannot be present with a wife, cannot think clearly about his work. Everything upstream of your calendar runs through your body.
What you have done is outsource it. To the doctor, one time a year, for fifteen minutes. To a supplement. To the idea of a future January. Meanwhile the actual daily decisions — what time you stop, what you drink, what you look at, whether you move — have been made by whatever you felt like at 9 p.m.
…continues in the full workbook.
Measure
The Audit — 5 of 12 questions
Yes or no about the last thirty days. One point per yes. Do not round in your favour.
- 01I have trained fewer than eight times in the last thirty days.Y / N
- 02I regularly get less than seven hours of sleep and treat that as normal.Y / N
- 03I drink most nights, or I drink to change how I feel.Y / N
- 04The last ninety minutes before I sleep are spent on a screen.Y / N
- 05I do not know my blood pressure or my last bloodwork numbers.Y / N
0–3 · Insourced
You are carrying your body and your attention yourself. Use these fourteen days to sharpen and to teach it to another man.
4–7 · Drifting
You have not quit, but you have handed pieces of your body and your attention to other people and other systems. This is the most common place a man lands. It is also the easiest to reverse.
8–12 · Outsourced
Someone or something else is running your body and your attention for you. Nothing here is unfixable. But it will take fourteen straight days of small, unimpressive obedience.
Day 1 · complete
Establish the floor
Before anything else, you need numbers you can hit on your worst week. Not a program. A floor.
The floor is: train four times a week, sleep seven hours, walk eight thousand steps. Three numbers. No gym membership required to start — four sessions of twenty-five minutes with your own bodyweight counts, and a session that happens beats a session that is optimal.
The reason for a floor rather than a goal is that goals fail silently. A man who intends to 'get in shape' has no way of knowing on a Wednesday whether he is winning. A man with a floor knows by 9 p.m. every single day.
Today, write the three numbers on a card and put it where you will see it — the mirror, the truck, the inside of your locker. Then schedule the four sessions for this week as actual calendar blocks with times. Unscheduled training does not happen once you are over thirty-five.
Anchor move · 15 min
Write the card, book the four
Train 4 / Sleep 7 / Walk 8 on a card where you'll see it. Four training blocks into the calendar now.
Your four training blocks this week, with days and times.
Which of the three numbers will be hardest, and why?
Today's commitment
I have a floor and it is written down.
Days 2–14
The rest of the fourteen days
- 02The 8 p.m. shutdownRun the shutdown tonight · 10 min
- 03Train today, badly if necessaryTwenty-five minutes, three rounds · 25 min
- 04Know your numbersBook it and get two numbers today · 20 min
- 05Sleep is a decision you make at nineSet the bedtime alarm · 10 min
- 06Eat like a man with a jobDecide tomorrow's lunch tonight · 10 min
- 07Walk without headphonesThirty silent minutes outside · 30 min
- 08The mind auditList and mark every input · 20 min
- 09Cut the one and make it hard to undoCut it and add friction · 15 min
- 10Honest audit of the bottleCount it, then start the fourteen-day zero · 15 min
- 11Carry something heavyFour heavy carries · 20 min
- 12One friend, in personOne text, one date, one real question · 10 min
- 13Build the week that repeatsWrite the repeating week and the bad-week version · 20 min
- 14The first employee you manageName the week to your wife, take the re-audit · 20 min
Reference tool
Train 4, Sleep 7, Walk 8 — The Card
Copy this onto a card. Mirror, truck, locker. Tick the boxes daily.
TRAIN 4 — four sessions a week, twenty-five minutes minimum, two reps in reserve.
SLEEP 7 — seven hours minimum. Bedtime alarm set. No caffeine after noon.
WALK 8 — eight thousand steps. One of them silent, outside, once a week.
Beginner circuit, three rounds: 10 push-ups · 15 bodyweight squats · 10 hip hinges (or Romanian deadlifts) · 40m carry · 30s plank. Rest 90 seconds between rounds.
3 more tools included: The 8 p.m. Shutdown Card, Know Your Numbers — The Bloodwork Sheet, The Mind Audit Sheet.
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