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Inside The Faith Workbook

Real pages from the workbook — the opening, part of the audit, a complete Day 1 with its anchor move and written exercises, and one of the reference tools. Nothing here is a mockup.

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Contents

All 24 sections

Start hereThe Outsourced Soul
AuditThe Audit
Day 1Say it out loud
Day 2Open the book yourself
Day 3The family altar
Day 4Name the thing you have been managing
Day 5The morning that belongs to you
Day 6Pray for your people by name
Day 7Sabbath is not a nap
ReviewWeek One Review
Day 8Find your older man
Day 9Repent in front of your children
Day 10Tell one man the truth
Day 11Give something away
Day 12Cut one input
Day 13Serve where nobody claps
Day 14Take the chair
ReviewWeek Two Review
Re-auditThe Re-Audit
30 daysThe 30-Day Plan
ToolThe Family Altar Script
ToolThe Older Man Outreach Script
ToolThe Three-Part Repentance
ToolThe Fourteen-Day Reading Plan

Start here

The Outsourced Soul

You did not walk away from God. That is not what happened. What happened is quieter than that, and worse in a way, because it never required a decision.

You got busy. The church took over the teaching. A podcast took over the thinking. A worship playlist took over the singing. Your wife took over the praying, because she was better at it, and because it was easier to let her. Somewhere in there you stopped being a man who has a faith and became a man who consumes one.

That is what outsourcing looks like. It never feels like rebellion. It feels like delegation. And delegation works fine for your calendar and your lawn and your taxes. It does not work for your soul, because the thing you delegate, you stop being able to do.

…continues in the full workbook.

Measure

The Audit — 5 of 12 questions

Answer yes or no. Do not soften anything. Count one point for every yes. The number is not a verdict on you as a man; it is a map of where the work is.

01My wife prays out loud in our home more often than I do.Y / N
02I could not tell you the last passage of Scripture I read on my own, without a podcast or a plan reading it to me.Y / N
03My children have never heard me pray for them by name.Y / N
04My spiritual input is almost entirely audio — sermons, podcasts, worship — and almost nothing written or read.Y / N
05There is no older man in my life I can call when something breaks.Y / N

0–3 · Insourced

You are carrying your own spiritual life yourself. Use these fourteen days to sharpen and to teach it to another man.

4–7 · Drifting

You have not quit, but you have handed pieces of your own spiritual life to other people and other systems. This is the most common place a man lands. It is also the easiest to reverse.

8–12 · Outsourced

Someone or something else is running your own spiritual life for you. Nothing here is unfixable. But it will take fourteen straight days of small, unimpressive obedience.

Day 1 · complete

Say it out loud

The first thing a man loses is his voice. Not his belief — his voice. He still believes; he just has not said any of it out loud in years, and belief that is never spoken slowly becomes belief that is never tested, and belief that is never tested becomes an opinion.

So we start here, before Scripture, before habit, before anyone else is involved. You are going to say what you actually believe, out loud, alone, in a room with the door closed. Not the version you would say at church. The version that is true at 2 a.m.

It will feel absurd. Do it anyway. There is a reason every serious tradition makes men speak their confession rather than think it. Thinking is private and revisable. Speech commits you. The moment you hear your own voice say a thing, you have taken a position, and something in you begins to organize itself around that position.

Keep it short. Four or five sentences. What you believe about God, about yourself, about what you have done with the last five years. Then say the hardest one: the thing you believe but have been avoiding saying, because saying it would require you to change something on Monday.

Anchor move · 10 min

Speak your confession alone

Find a closed door. Say out loud, in your own words: what you believe about God, and where you have gone quiet. Five sentences is enough.

Write the five sentences you said out loud.

What is the one sentence you almost did not say?

Write it here anyway.

Today's commitment

Today I said out loud what I actually believe.

Days 2–14

The rest of the fourteen days

02Open the book yourselfRead Mark 1 alone · 15 min
03The family altarLead one four-minute table prayer · 5 min
04Name the thing you have been managingWrite the true name of it · 10 min
05The morning that belongs to youFirst fifteen minutes, no phone · 15 min
06Pray for your people by namePray for four people by name · 8 min
07Sabbath is not a napBlock four hours of real rest · 10 min
08Find your older manText one older man · 10 min
09Repent in front of your childrenOne real repentance, one child · 5 min
10Tell one man the truthSay it to one man's face · 20 min
11Give something awayGive until you notice · 10 min
12Cut one inputCut one input, name the replacement · 10 min
13Serve where nobody clapsTake the invisible job · 10 min
14Take the chairTell your family what you intend to keep · 15 min

Reference tool

The Family Altar Script

Read it word for word the first time. Four minutes. Do not explain yourself before you start.

1. 'Before we eat, I want to read something.'

2. Read three to five verses. Suggested starting rotation: Psalm 23, Psalm 1, Mark 1:35, Ephesians 4:29-32, Philippians 4:4-7, Psalm 121, Romans 12:9-13.

3. Ask one question and let it be quiet: 'What is one thing that was hard today?'

4. Pray, naming each person: 'God, thank you for this table. Be with [name] in [specific thing]. Make me a better husband and father than I was today. Amen.'

5. Eat. Do not add commentary. Do not ask how it went.

3 more tools included: The Older Man Outreach Script, The Three-Part Repentance, The Fourteen-Day Reading Plan.

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